Ephesians 5:25-33
25. Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word,
27. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkled, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.
30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32. This is a great mystery but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
In the passage of the Bible above we see that the word of God states categorically that a man’s wife is himself. The Bible also states or should I say put it, that a man’s wife is his body, just as the church is the body of Christ.
The Hebrew word used for “man” is ’ish and the one for woman is ’ishah. We have said before that there are four main words used for man in the Bible. ’Adam, the generic name for man, ’Ish, man itself, that is as a male, Gever, a strong man and ’Enosh, connoting or implying weakness or a weak man.
Some theologians have postulated that there are three ’Ishahs. The first one is the internal ’Ishah, which I term should be the soul, the second one is the external ’Ishah which is one’s wife, in this case mirroring the internal ’Ishah, the soul, and the last ’ishah, is mankind itself, the ’Ishah of God, ’Adam. I think there is the fourth ’Ishah. Mankind is the ’Ishah of Christ and Christ himself is the ’Ishah of God (1 Corinthian 11:3)
The wife is also said to be the body of the man, Soma in the Greek, and the flesh of man.
The word flesh in the Hebrew is Basar and is similar to the Hebrew word Besar which implies information (remember, there were no vowels in the original Hebrew). We all know that the body is covered with skin. The word “skin” is the Hebrew word ’Or which is very similar to the Hebrew word for light 'Or, and according to some theologians, the word for skin, rather starting with the letter Ayin(‘) rather then Aleph(‘) means absence of light. A Hebrew word for blindness is also very similar to the one used for skin.
So the flesh being covered by skin is information enshrouded by darkness which needs the light of God to bring it to bear. A person first has to marry himself, has to understand himself before he can understand who his wife is. Remember, ‘Adam said this is now the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh. He understood himself before he understood who it was that was meant for him. He had first married himself in that he understood his hidden nature, that is he spoke the same language with his hidden nature. The virtuous woman in proverbs 31:10-31 is written with all the Hebrew alphabets at the beginning of every verse. Comparing with English, it is just like writing all the succeeding verses with A,B,C, etc.
So one cannot find a perfect bride. Just as Jesus Christ had to present to himself a glorious church, that is, something having glory (symbolized by light), so also a man has to present to himself his wife. She, definitely, like the church which has spots and wrinkles, has to be “washed” to bring out the light out of darkness being like the body of Christ. It is impossible to find a perfectly perfect wife. The Bible says the will of God is good and acceptable and perfect (Romans 12:3) but you will find out your wife is not perfectly perfect. That is what proverbs 31:10 means when it says “who can find a virtuous women? For her price is far above rubies.”
Yes all have sinned. It took the blood of Jesus Christ our Lord to redeem us from sin, a price far higher than rubies. The virtuous woman represents a perfect bride of Jesus Christ or God, one that “speaks” the same language as Christ or God. So also a man must eventually speak the same “language” as his bride.
Literally proverbs 31:10 says a woman of virtue who he can find? As long as 'Adam tried to look for a mate in the story in Genesis, he did not succeed ( there was no mate for him among the beasts of the field and fowls of the air, they being symbols of women he did not understand or speak the same "language" with.- See Newtons' third law, laws and the creation account in Genesis). God had to make him fall into a deep sleep before he could recognize his 'Ishah. This sleep is symbolic of a state free from worries. That is, one cannot recognise the 'Ishah meant for the person in a state of worry. Also the skin condition in the Bible, normally refered to as leprosy by some, was a symbol used for the sin. condition in man.
Also the Bible says this in 1Corithians 2,
1: And I, brethren, when I came to you, came not with excellency of speech or of wisdom, declaring unto you the testimony of God.
2: For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified.
3: And I was with you in weakness, and in fear, and in much trembling.
4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:
5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.
6: Howbeit we speak wisdom among them that are perfect: yet not the wisdom of this world, nor of the princes of this world, that come to nought:
7: But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, even the hidden wisdom, which God ordained before the world unto our glory:
8: Which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known it, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.
9: But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.
10: But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.
11: For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God.
12: Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.
13: Which things also we speak, not in the words which man's wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.
14: But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
15: But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man.
16: For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.
If we look more closely at verse 5 of the above chapter, the Bible says our faith should not be in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God. If you think, by your wisdom, you will be able to find and know your mate, you are very wrong. The Bible talks of the Natural man and the Spiritual man in these verses above. The natural man is someone, who, though he is a Christian, thinks he can know the things of God by human wisdom, whereas the spiritual man is someone who totally relies on the power of God and the Spirit of God. This is why the Bible says above concerning the natural man, in verse 9 "But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him."
You can never know your wife by Human wisdom or even Spiritual Wisdom. Only God can show you your wife, as he did to Adam. Try as you may with all your knowledge, you will only get as far as Adam. It is only when you rest in the power of God as Adam did, that you will be able to know your wife. This is also true for any revelation given to man by God, not only for a wife. You cannot know what is revealed to you by God, by your knowledge, or by your Biblical wisdom. Only God can show you His revelation. Joseph knew this well, when he told Pharaoh concerning the dreams of Pharaoh, that he could not give Pharaoh an interpretation, but God would. He eventually, by the spirit of God, gave Pharaoh the desired interpretation.
